Staying Sociably Connected…

“Mommy… I have a tummy ache” is heard more in my house that anything else.

It’s tough, because there really isn’t ANYTHING that I can do.

S has been dealing with it for almost a year.  We honestly thought she was making it up, because she didn’t exhibit any tummy troubles.  We thought it was because she was nervous about something, or that she was having problems at school, or just wanted a bit more attention.

J has been dealing with it since Christmas.  We all got the flu around the same time, but both J and Steve had it the longest.  Steve was diagnosed with colitis, and even though the doctor didn’t say that’s what J had, the symptoms were the same, so we’ll run with it.  And we knew that it wasn’t just going to go away over night, it would be a small battle.  So every few weeks, a fever would pop up, keeping him home from school, and his tummy would hurt.

S was different.  The pediatrician told us to cut out dairy for a week, she assumed it was Lactose intolerance.  So we tried it.  Nothing changed.  We tried gluten-free, and it improved a bit, but the minute she had a PB&J, the tummy aches were back.  It was hard for me because I knew what she needed, but it seemed that everyone around me thought I was making it up.

Then her behavior started to change, she started losing her focus.  She was still the same girl, but easily distracted.  She couldn’t stay focused at her soccer games, and couldn’t run because her tummy hurt.  I knew it was time to put my foot down, and this time Steve was 110% behind me.

So we cut it ALL out: no dairy, no gluten, no sugar, no artificial colors.  All she’s eating is vegetables, rice, beans and meat.  It’s starting to get a little boring for lunches – salad every day.   And you can only prepare chicken so many ways….  But within a week, she began to improve.  She could sit and do her homework without being easily distracted; she was sleeping better and not waking up tired; she was able to memorize her piano recital songs; she’s running and riding her bike faster too.

We occasionally ride bikes to school.  It’s about a mile and a half, and was taking us 15-20 minutes to get to school.  I’d have to slow down and wait for her.  Last week, we did it in 10 minutes, and I had to keep up with her!

The thing that I’m finding to be the hard part is keeping her from eating the foods she shouldn’t when I’m not around.  Even if I remind her right before I leave her, and remind the adults, she’s still a kid and doesn’t want to be excluded.  I was so proud of her last week; there was a birthday party in her class and they passed out cupcakes.  She told her teacher that she wasn’t allowed to have it, so the teacher put it in a plastic bag and she brought it home to share.  I guess I’m going to need to find some vegan/gluten-free snacks for her to keep at school in situations like that for next year.  Probably for birthday parties and other events, too…

I’ve heard many people scoff the ideas that what we it doesn’t really change our behaviors or how we feel.  But you know what, give it a try for yourself.  Take two weeks and eat nothing but what The Good Lord gave us from the earth, and see how you feel.

I love board games.

 

Call me a dork if you want, but I love board games.

 

I’d rather play a game and talk, then just sit and talk. Because if the conversations become dry, they can be revived by the game.

 

So why then am I the only one that ever wants to play games?  THEY’RE FUN!!!!

 

OK so here are a few of my favorite games:

 

Phase 10 has been a favorite for many years!  It’s an easy game to learn, and it’s can drive people crazy.    My husband works a crazy schedule, and I don’t get to see him as often as I’d like.  So we started playing 1 hand a night.  So far – he’s won every hand.  Jerk.  Our goal is to not only complete the game’s set 10 phases, but the additional 10 phases that we found online.

I Love The 80′s is a game I bought last year.  I’ve played it a few times, and it’s definitely easier to play with people who lived, even partially, in the 80′s.  Playing with someone born in 1991 isn’t as much fun….

Apples To Apples can be a lot of fun, with the right people.  I’ve played it where everyone is taking it WAY TO SERIOUSLY and you want to stop after one round.  But if you are a silly group, the game can get quite interesting…

Smart A$$.  It’s a very simple game to play, but boy, the arguments that break out are hilarious!

 Telestrations is a game that we’ve recently discovered.  Again, it kinda depends on the people you’re playing with. But it’s a lot of fun, and can you can hear some very interesting explanations and back stories…

I never really got into Pente, when it was just Steve and I.  But when our kids became old enough to play with us, it became fun.

Ahh Risk…  I have a love/hate relationship with this game.  I’ve been playing it with Steve for 12 years… and well, apparently I don’t play it right.  Yet I always win…

Feb 9, 2012

I am living in the same neighborhood that I grew up in.  It’s looks the same as it did when we moved here from Massachusetts when I was 5.  My kids will go to the same schools that I did. They may even have some of the same teachers (super weird, right).  

Right now, my son is watching The Super Mario Bros. Super Show. on Netflix.  OMG it’s funny, yet kinda bad!  But he is loving it.  HeMan and SheRa – wow, those also are not as good as I remember.  I’ll sit and watch Transformers (the original, not the new one) Hello Kitty Furry Tail Theatre, Rainbow Brite with my kids.  They’ve seen the newer cartoons, but for some reason prefer the stuff that Steve and I watched. 

Steve and I have been joking about all the stories our parents would tell us.  “When we were kids, our TV’s were black and white, and only had 3 channels”  “We listened to 8 tracks and Vinyl Records.”  “We had roller skates” “We didn’t have computers”.

When I was a kid, we grew up with 2 TV’s, with cable.  Today, we have 2 TV’s, no cable, but we have Apple TV and Netflix.

We had cassettes and CD’s.  Now, we have a few CD’s, but mostly we download from Amazon or iTunes.

We had roller blades.   My kids want those stupid wheely shoes.

 

We had 1 family computer.  In my house we have 2 desk tops, 3 lap tops and an iPad.  Oh yea, and our phones.

When I played video games, I used a super Nintendo and gameboys.  My kids have games downloaded on the iPod Touch and the Wii.  

I’m thankful for the technology that we have.  I’m thankful for the improvements that have been made.  

But hey, there are just parts of our growing up what we think that they should know: game cartridges, disc-man, cassettes in cars; you know, the important stuff

 

He will never know what an Atari is…

 

Feb 2, 2012

  • Wife
  • Mother
  • Daughter
  • Sister
  • Friend
  • Maid
  • Chef
  • Dry Cleaner
  • Nurse
  • chauffeur
  • Teacher
  • Student
  • Entrepreneur

 

This is probably an incomplete/generic list, but I’m exhausted just looking at it.

One of the hardest things that I have to deal with during any given day is managing my time.  I’ve been falling asleep at 9:45 every night – partially from my meds and being ill, partially because it’s non stop all day.

Most days, I wake up at 6:30, get my kids up and ready for school and out by 8.  Then I’m out of the house:  Meetings, networking, research, writing… Then the kids get home at 3 and then I’m helping with homework, reading, cooking, kid’s baths, bed.  Then I reply to a few emails, a little bit more research and writing then I crash.

I think the thing about being a working mother is even though we all know we need to take time for ourselves, we don’t.  I don’t make time for me, or get together with friends like I use to.  I don’t read for enjoyment, only for education.  I don’t go to the spa any more, I’m back to my natural color and will probably keep it that way for a very long time.

It’s funny; in business I need an accountability partner to help me make sure I’m staying on track.  Perhaps I need someone to help me to do the same for myself personally.  I don’t get it from my husband as often as I use to, I barely see him any more (work, school, work, sleep… poor guy, he needs some alone time too).

Well, perhaps now that it is written, it will be.  Probably not.  All I can say is – do as I say not as I do, and take some time for you – your business and family need you, and you can’t function without focusing on you every once in a while.

 

 November 14, 2011

 

 

 

Have you ever had a moment when EVERYTHING starts to make sense, and scare the tar out of you at the same time?  That moment when the planets align and you feel peace, but the peace you feel ends up being pure nostalgia?

 

I went to a concert alone a few weeks ago.  I didn’t know anyone there, but I think it was better that way.  I’d been to the venue before, but it had been 8 years.   I really enjoyed the almost 2 hour drive there, I really needed some alone time to think things through.

 

I got a great spot, 6 feet from the stage.  I hate those people who just push and shove their way up to the front – really, we’re adults – act like it.  Besides, it’s better to be a few feet back so you can see everyone and everything. 

 

And then the music takes over.  I really needed an outlet, and honestly I haven’t had one for a while.  I don’t do clubs or bars – it’s not me and it never will be.  But a concert, when there is true passion behind the music, and the music is good, that is my refuge.  

 

I worked at a radio station for a few years in and just out of college.  We had a concert almost every month.  That’s probably why my daughter is so musically charged, she was surrounded by it in the womb.

 

But this night, hearing songs that I listen to frequently live and in my face, something clicked.  And then I hear it – ‘Strong Enough To Break’.  And everything made sense.  

 

I’ve ALWAYS been beat up, knocked down, abused, humiliated, taken advantage of.  I’ve let it happen since childhood – heck I let it happen that night by letting people push in in front of me.  I recognize that I do this, but I don’t know how to not.  It’s something that I’d just accepted.  But hearing that song that night… it hit me.  Over 20 years of mental abuse, some of it my own.  I’m broken and have been knocked down, and I let it happen.  But I always got back up; that’s got to count for something, right?

 

I’m human, I’ll make mistakes.  I’m trying to grow, but walking down unfamiliar paths.  I feel like I’m doing it all alone, even though there are so many people around me… I’m letting go of those who maybe haven’t given me the support that I need.  

 

Have you taken a look at yourself lately?  Because I am right now, and I don’t know who I see right now.  

 

So thank you to Isaac, Taylor and Zac Hanson for giving me a great night; helping me let go of all the stress in my life, if only for a few hours.  You’re music has always brought me great joys, and I’m thankful you do what you do.

 

Oct 13, 2011

I hate bullies, ‘mean girls’, cliques and all that punk kid stupidity.  I don’t like to be negative, it doesn’t get anyone anywhere, but this is one thing that I just WILL NOT tolerate.

I recently posted on my Facebook profile that I’m not a good person to piss off… if I offended anyone, I apologize.  But when a friend jokingly said “good to know”, I elaborated a bit.  I felt the urge to continue on.

While out for a walk with my family, some High School students were out selling something in support of their sports team.  The last few years, we’ve opted to not purchase anything from this team in support of another that I’m more passionate about.  However last year, the team members didn’t like that myself and a few neighbors did not buy anything from them and they chose to vandalize our houses and cars.

So after we catch you doing that to us last year, do you really think I’m going to by something from you this year?  And you think that when I tell you “no not right now” it’s appropriate to use very foul language around me and my 3 small children?  I think not.

I’m a mom, before anything else, I am a mom.  And I love my community and want to support my local athletic teams.  But if you are going to write foul words on our cars and vandalize our yards and then call my neighbors and I a B—- in front of our kids – you’ve got another thing coming!

I’ve expressed my distaste for anything of this nature to my kids.  Joking with a neighbor I swore I’d lock my kid in their room every night until they moved out if I ever caught them TPing someone’s house.  My husband use to think it was funny until it happened to us and he was the one who had to clean it all up.

I don’t know why people think it’s ok or funny.  I don’t understand why some parents encourage and even drive the getaway car.  I’ve work VERY hard to buy a house and a car and to have you write dirty words on it and TP my house and to shove things into my mailbox… just because I didn’t buy your $10 booster card?

Kids today just don’t seem to have any respect for things or people.  Wait until you get into the ‘real world’.  When you have worked your but off to buy a house that’s just right for your family, and you get the first brand new car you’ve ever had… Then tell me how it feels to have to wash every foul word in the dictionary off your car and driveway before your 6-year-old starts sounding them out…

 

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